Changing the Dialogue on Bra Wearing

Long before I would ever been diagnosed with fibromyalgia I could not handle wearing bras even ones custom fitted. The uncomfortableness and pain from wearing most of the day would cause me issues. My then boyfriend at the time spoke words that I held onto for a long time more or less saying for how well he knew me I never did anything I didn't want to. This wasn't any sexual choice, but for sake of comfort and not having any pain from wearing bras.

Nowadays even with how much has changed for women we seem to slut shame or assume women who don't wear bras are doing it for sexual reasons. Not even bearing to mind that many have fibromyalgia and the fact of wearing certain clothes can cause insane amounts of pain or other pain related illnesses that might do the same. Or the fact that honestly when it comes to the end of the day some don't wear them just because like me found them too uncomfortable not for any sexual related reason. Some are called names or seen not an adult, since when should clothing choices of any kind define you as an adult?

Then there is also the fact that men can get away with certain clothing choices without even a second look, but if a woman does it it's seen as a horrible thing that must be stopped. Seriously? Then there is the slow, but sure hidden science and health articles mentioning things about bras that might make our heads spin. Regardless, we need to stop the name calling and shaming of women just because they go against a society norm no matter the reason. Shouldn't we all be a bit more understanding?

Realize honestly it should be a person's choice and that it's not always tied to what people might think? And if men have a problem with it they are just further adding to stereotypes and a culture of hate even if they themselves don't get any negative toward them? Maybe it's time we all change our dialogue and realize certain things aren't always what they seem.

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